Monday, January 7, 2013

The Critic

There's a fine line between being a judgmental b*tch and being a critic.

According to the dictionary this is the definition of critic :

crit·ic : \ˈkri-tik\

category 1)
a : one who expresses a reasoned opinion on any matter especially involving a judgment of its value, truth, righteousness, beauty, or technique

b : one who engages often professionally in the analysis, evaluation, or appreciation of works of art or artistic performances
category 2)
: one given to harsh or captious judgment  

I'd like to say I fall more under category 1, I like to think my opinions are reasonable and thought out.  I also like to think my opinions are respected by numerous people.  But since I'm not considered a professional critic and I tend to have an opinion about everything, I think I unfortunately fall more under category 2.
In life we're all given talents or things that come naturally.  I naturally talk (a lot) and form opinions quickly, some may say this isn't a good thing, something I should work on... I think I should use it to my advantage.  The more and more I blog, the more I see a pattern, I'm a category 1 critic, people just haven't realized it yet.  I occasionally daydream about someone stumbling upon my blog, seeing my potential, and hiring me right then and there.  Who wouldn't want to get paid for giving their opinion about something, easy-peasy.  Don't get me wrong, I am completely content being a SAHM, but to get paid for something I do everyday already, that would be incredible. 
But I also understand that in my private life not everyone appreciates the fact I'm opinionated, I tend to step on toes every now and then.  I also see the affect it has on my daughter, she is 3 yrs old and a constant-complainer.  Apparently I need to work on my timing... less random complaining, judging, and critiscizing in my private life.  More structured opinions, given when asked for or when needed.  But here, on my blog, I warn you when you first open the page (take a look at my header).  Here I can be the opinionated person I naturally am.  Well, with some restraints, I've mentioned before I want to try and keep this blog light-hearted, which excludes my opinions on politics, religion, and anything else that might stir up hateful comments (I've seen this on other blogs, and it's not pretty).

I don't want to be labeled a judgmental b*tch, it's not how I want to be remembered.  So maybe I should consider giving some positive opinions and not just the negative ones that so easily flop out.  I don't want to have a toxic personality, according to a search, being judgmental falls into 1 of 8 toxic personalities.  When I read the definition of "Judgmental Jim" I wouldn't say that's me, but maybe others do.  Like I said above there's a fine line between being a judgmental b*tch and being a critic.  Do you also walk this line?


  1. I'm very introverted myself and tend to keep my opinions and real thoughts inside. Don't get me wrong, I still have opinions and judging thoughts! haha! I just don't tend to let anyone know them unless they are very close to me.
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  2. I tend to be kind but I lavish my opinions as openly as my compliments. It is funny to note how people feel equally uncomfortable with compliments.

    I wonder if it has more to do with asserting yourself period that makes people step back, be it negative or positive.

  3. Wow, you two made me feel bad... I guess I should hold my tongue more often! :) Danica